Raging against the article: Flower, Candy, Tummy Tuck? Mom's unconventional Mother's Day Wish List
I saw this article yesterday and it has bothered me for the past 24 hours, so I’m turning it into a blog!
To me, this is not a Happy Mother’s day moment, but a sad one. All of these mothers wanting a “mommy makeover?” First, I find the terms “mommy makeover” and “tummy tuck” in and of itself problematic. As if this was just a day at the spa, finding a new blush or a new method of sit-ups. Giving these procedures “cute” names doesn’t change the fact that these are real surgeries with scalpels cutting into flesh, and infantilizing the names we call these operations doesn’t change what they are.
Plus, I find it so sad how many of us have learned that self-improvement means surgery to change our bodies as we strive to look forever young. We won’t be young forever. We will grow, change and show our history with wrinkles etched into our skin. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t take care of ourselves, or feel good about our bodies, but turning to the knife in search of beauty and youth to me, is misguided. I know there are people out there who say there feel so much better about themselves after liposuction, or breast augmentation, but what does it say about our culture when this is what 62% of these mothers polled said they wanted for their “special day?” And what does that teach our children?
The idea that so much of our energy should be directed toward changing our physical appearance and that happiness can be found in doing so is, in my opinion, a dangerous path to travel. I wish that the majority of mothers hearts’ desires included more time for their true passions, and that they found beauty from deep within their own skin, rather than in the manipulation of their flesh to more closely approximate some elusive cultural ideal.
Children learn from what we do. If we take pleasure and pride in our bodies, our children will learn to take pleasure and pride in their bodies, as well. If we complain about the size of our hips, stomach and thighs, our children will learn to complain about their bodies, as well. The epidemic of eating disorders will continue, and we will increasingly be contributing to a culture that turns to the outside for what can only be found on the inside.
We are all going to die. I don’t mean to be a downer in this blog, but it’s true. Our bodies change, we grow older. We can embrace ourselves where we are, take good care of ourselves physically, emotionally and spiritually, and let our smile brighten not only our children’s’ lives, but the world. We have an inner light that no scalpel can touch and when we let it shine we are all beautiful.
So this Mother’s Day celebrate your mom, or the memory of your mom, by holding dear in your heart something about her that makes you smile…and mothers everywhere, you are the holder of life; you have brought life forth and your have nurtured that life and watched your children grow…you deserve something wonderful that speaks to your heart, not the manipulation of your body…
What do you think of this article? I'd love to hear your thoughts. And Happy Mother's Day!
Flowers, Candy...Tummy Tuck? Mom's Unconventional Mother's Day Wish List
Released: 5/2/2011 12:00 AM EDT
Source: American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS)
Newswise — ARLINGTON HEIGHTS, Ill., May 2, 2011 – What would mom get herself for Mother’s Day if she had the chance? A new survey shows that it might be a tummy tuck or breast lift.
A survey released today from the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) shows that if cost were not an issue, 62 percent of mothers said that they would consider a “mommy makeover” that includes procedures such as a tummy tuck, breast augmentation and/or breast lift.*
According to ASPS statistics, the number of women getting “mommy makeover” procedures is on the rise. Women had nearly 112,000 tummy tucks in 2010, up 85 percent since 2000; 90,000 breast lifts, up 70 percent since 2000; and 296,000 breast augmentations, up 39 percent since 2000.
“In the last decade we’ve seen women’s attitudes about cosmetic surgery change. Today women are not afraid to admit that they love their children, but they wish their bodies looked the way they did before their first pregnancies. And they’re not afraid to acknowledge that they may need a little help beyond a healthy diet and exercise,” said ASPS President Phillip Haeck, MD.
Another trend that ASPS Member Surgeons are noticing is that the type of patient seeking “mommy makeover” plastic surgery is younger than a decade ago.
“In the past we saw a lot of women in their 50s getting these types of procedures. But today we are seeing young mothers in their 30s coming in for procedures such as tummy tucks and breast lifts. They don't want to wait years to reestablish how they used to look. They want their pre- baby bodies back now," said Dr. Haeck.
The promise of getting her body back is what led 38-year-old Dana Van Gray to undergo surgery for a tummy tuck and breast augmentation just one year after having her last child.
“I didn’t like my stomach. I started noticing a muffin top and I thought - why wait? I’m young, I’m healthy and I want to look good now,” Van Gray said.
“More and more patients like Dana are coming in today asking for mommy makeovers, because women now openly talk about having these procedures. It’s more accepted than it was ten years ago,” said Van Gray’s plastic surgeon, Allen Rosen, MD, an ASPS Member Surgeon in Montclair, New Jersey.
“The techniques and the technologies are to the point where we can do these procedures in an outpatient setting in a very safe and effective fashion, minimizing the amount of downtime and pain. This appeals to our patients,” said Dr. Rosen.
Van Gray says that her new and improved body not only enhanced her looks, but also her attitude. “I feel good so I can be a better mom to my kids,” Van Gray said.
If you are considering a “mommy makeover” the ASPS has these tips:
-Wait at least six months to one year after having your last child to undergo “mommy makeover” procedures
-Be specific about your post-baby body goals so that your surgeon can recommend the most appropriate procedures
-To optimize the final outcome, if you are trying to lose weight, do so before undergoing “mommy makeover” procedures
-Find a surgeon who is board certified in plastic surgery
-Ask to see before and after photos of your plastic surgeon’s recent work
For more statistics on trends in plastic surgery, visit the ASPS Report of the 2010 Plastic Surgery Statistics at http://www.plasticsurgery.org/Media/Statistics.html. Visitors can also find information about procedures and referrals to ASPS Member Surgeons at www.plasticsurgery.org.
The American Society of Plastic Surgeons is the largest organization of board-certified plastic surgeons in the world. Representing more than 7,000 physician members, the Society is recognized as a leading authority and information source on cosmetic and reconstructive plastic surgery. ASPS comprises more than 94 percent of all board-certified plastic surgeons in the United States.
Founded in 1931, the Society represents physicians certified by The American Board of Plastic Surgery or The Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Canada.
*The “mommy makeover” survey was conducted online with a random sample of 1,085 mothers, aged 18+, carefully selected to match US population demographics. The survey was conducted by Impulse Research for ASPS during the week of April 25, 2011.